The Culture of Dry Sex in Southern Africa Must Stop!

Man meets lover. He says “I want to have sex with you right now”. She has no time to think about it. She takes position. Man forces his way in. She is dry and bruised. This is Dry Sex. Before you feel sad for any of the participants, keep in mind that this is an acceptable practice in southern Africa. Dry sex has its own flavor. A study done among black South Africans found that about 50% of women interviewed preferred dry sex to lubricated sex. More than 50% of men shared this view too. The study also showed that men who loved dry sex had partners who loved dry sex. Continue reading The Culture of Dry Sex in Southern Africa Must Stop!

The Sex Life of A Circumcised Woman. (Female Genital Mutilation)

The woman who is circumcised has not only been denied her human right, she has also been denied a lifetime of sexual pleasure. Female circumcision or female genital mutilation (FGM) almost always involves cutting of the clitoris. In the womb, the genital tubercle forms the clitoris in girls and the penis in boys. Both the clitoris and the penis expand to sexual stimuli. Both are wired with nerve cells that help us achieve orgasm during sex. Cutting off the clitoris in a girl is like cutting off the penis in a boy. Can you imagine life with part of or the whole penis cut off? Ouch! Continue reading The Sex Life of A Circumcised Woman. (Female Genital Mutilation)

The Power of a Good Follower. Let us forget about bad leaders for a moment!

Enough talk about bad leaders! Are You a good follower? Do you engage with your leader? Do you speak up, belong to a political party, demonstrate when needed, or vote? Bad followers remain quiet and your silence as a follower signals that you are either ignorant or too frightened to speak up. It is because you remain neutral or stay quiet that bad leaders remain in power. A good follower speaks out the first time he/she notices the leader’s misbehavior; he/she shouts from the rooftop before it becomes entrenched. Continue reading The Power of a Good Follower. Let us forget about bad leaders for a moment!

Living with the pain of witnessing a traumatic event- People with PTSD

A newly-wedded lady was having lunch with her husband when suddenly armed men broke into their house. They shot dead the husband and raped the woman. After the robbers left, the woman packed a few of her belongings and travelled 400km north to another city. Continue reading Living with the pain of witnessing a traumatic event- People with PTSD

Six causes of sudden death and what you can do to prevent it.

When people die suddenly, all I hear most times is ‘he died from a heart attack’. That phrase ‘heart attack’ has been used too many times that seriously, it doesn’t mean anything anymore. Yes, the heart has to die from an attack before a person is pronounced dead even if the cause of death was from diarrhea. Some of these ‘heart attacks’ are preventable. Let’s discuss some top 6 causes of sudden death and what you can do to prevent it. Continue reading Six causes of sudden death and what you can do to prevent it.

Do you know the story of Narcissus the Narcissist?

Narcissus was the son of the river god Cephissus. He was extremely good looking and had a lot of charm. He was popular. He was also very proud and had a reputation for only loving himself. He never gave love back to those who loved him. Nemesis the goddess of revenge heard about his escapades and decided to teach him a lesson. Continue reading Do you know the story of Narcissus the Narcissist?

Is it Safe to Store Food in the Fridge in an Opened Can?

Mom opens up the tin tomato can and scoops out half of it to make jollof rice or one of those tasty delicacies then she puts the rest in the fridge. Dad punches a big hole in the milk tin can, pours some milk in his tea and puts the rest in the fridge. I wonder how many can identify with these scenarios today. So, is it safe to store food in the fridge in an opened can?  Continue reading Is it Safe to Store Food in the Fridge in an Opened Can?

The Lady Who is Always the Center of Attraction- Do you know one?

I know a lady who loves to draw attention to herself all the time often in dramatic ways too. She cries too much and I just think I have had enough of her. One moment she is so sad and crying, the next hour she is laughing hysterically at a joke. What baffles me is her relationships. When she is in love, she is ‘madly in love’ she will talk about nothing else but ‘the guy’, she won’t be able to sleep or eat and when the lover travels, my God, you would think someone died with the way she would go about ‘how she can’t live without him’.  Continue reading The Lady Who is Always the Center of Attraction- Do you know one?